Should you be concerned about Imaginary Friends?


by ScatterJaw


This area of early childhood development has been studied immensely. Some psychologists suggests that imaginary friends lose their luster (if you will) by age four, while others suggest imaginary friends linger into the ages of eleven to twelve.

Psychologists say that having an imaginary friend is perfectly normal and may actually be an indication of high intelligence and creativity. But, is it a red flag for later social problems or is it normal kid behavior?

Childhood is a time for play and exploration, a time for making friends. Sometimes those friends live next door. Sometimes they live across the street. Sometimes they live in a child’s mind.

Imaginary companions are commonly found among children. In a 2001 study of 1800 school-age children, psychologists found that 46.2 percent of children reported experiences with imaginary companions. So, should parents be alarmed to discover that their child’s new friend is imaginary?

Many parents worry that their child with imaginary friends may be considered odd, shy or troubled. As it turns out the creation of imaginary friends is a normal developmental stage for many children. Although imaginary companions may be disconcerting for parents the truth is much more positive and intriguing.ifriend

General Tendencies of Children With Imaginary Friends
Studies have shown that children with imaginary friends tend to be less shy than children without imaginary friends. In addition, children with these friends are often better able to focus their attention and see things from other people’s perspectives. Imaginary friends are a normal way for a child to deal with problems, fears and insecurities.

Some researchers describe a child’s need to create an imaginary companion as a desire to achieve competence and mastery. Imaginary companions typically take two forms: one more competent than the child and one less competent. The more competent imaginary friend represents the child’s desire to be competent by emulating the imaginary friend. If the child’s imaginary friend is less competent than the child, then the child is attempting to achieve competence by being better than his or her imaginary companion.

While research seems to support imaginary companions as being a harmless part of growing up, what does their presence tell us about the children who imagine them?

Are Children with Imaginary Friends More Creative?
Most research indicates that children with imaginary companions do not appear to be more creative than those who lack them. However, a study by Dr. Linda Silverman, Director of the Gifted Development Center, found that gifted children are much more likely to have more than one imaginary companion than non-gifted children. Out of the children who had imaginary companions, 50% of the gifted students reported having more than one while only 9% of the average students reported having more than one imaginary companion.

Dealing with Imaginary Friends
The best way for parents to deal with children and their imaginary companions seems to be a policy of neutrality. Imaginary friends help children distinguish between reality and fantasy, but parents should neither support nor attempt to eliminate a child’s pretend companion. Parents should keep their involvement with their child’s imaginary friend to a minimum. The consensus concerning parental involvement supports letting children keep their imaginary companions for as long as they need them, provided that interaction with the imaginary friend doesn’t overtake interaction with real people.

The overall conclusion for parents of children with imaginary companions seems to be that this behavior is a normal part of childhood. Imaginary friends should not be cause for concern unless a child begins to prefer to play with his or her imaginary friend over real people or if the child continues interacting with an imaginary friend into adulthood. Parents of a child who has imaginary companions have no cause to worry. They are getting to see a healthy glimpse into their child’s imagination.

This article is for general informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice.